Grief & Loss Grief Counseling and Therapy
Online or in the Asheville area
In our world there is so much to grieve. All of us experience loss, heartbreak and grief on a personal level as we lose that which we love; friends, family, homes, jobs, livelihoods, community, or even an old ‘self’ that we’ve outgrown.
We also grieve the larger loss of our environment; with many species every day going extinct, and the loss of the indigenous wisdom that cared for and protected the earth, which is connected to the heartbeat of Life. Not to mention the unimaginable suffering of many millions of people around the planet who are being displaced or killed through war, violence, injustice and climate devastation.
Grief restores our dignity and our humanity.
If you are not able or willing to grieve, it hardens into grievances, jadedness, and bitterness. We close our hearts and our minds. This begets more fear, isolation, and disconnection, leading to more separation and suffering.
To be willing to feel the grief, whether it is a personal loss or the larger grief of the world, takes courage. It takes opening our hearts to be willing to feel, to allow the tears to melt us, and open us to our shared humanity and our longing for a different world. Only through this kind of deep grief work, can we possibly hope to end the numbness and amnesia that has us blind to the ways our world is being destroyed.
Grief work is sacred work.
When we can open our hearts enough to truly feel the grief and the pain, it can move us beyond our insulation and isolation to embrace the grief of the world in a caring and compassionate way. It gives us a strength that we never knew we had.
Grief is often too much to process alone-we need a safe, nurturing ‘container’ to be able to drop into the depths of it. Through loving support, ceremony and ritual we can open to, and pass through the grief, to allow our hearts to break open to the enormous love and care that is undeniably intrinsic to our True Nature.
There is a Brokenness
There is a brokenness
out of which comes the unbreakable
There is a shatteredness
out of which blooms the unshatterable
There is a sorrow beyond all grief
which leads to joy
and a fragility out of whose depths
There is a hollow space to vast for words
through which we pass with each loss,
out of whose darkness we are sanctioned into Being.
There is a cry deeper than all sound
Whose serrated edges cut the heart
As we break open to the place inside
Which is unbreakable and whole
Whilst learning to sing.